I like the way I'm nice and snug under the covers even when it's raining cats and dogs outside.
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Does Ky-Shen need a little, say 'encouragement' or not ?? Hahaha =P Hey, at least you already have someone kay, if you've read the articles I posted on my page, I don't even have that someone yet. Makes achieving my 'goal' more difficult, don't you think ? Ou, I'll be coming to KL this weekend for some retail therapy. Hehe..
ATTN: Melissa – Haha. I think you posted this comment on a wrong page lah. Haha.
And... I dunno if Ky-Shen needs encouragement. We don't talk about marriage.
And please. It's better to have no one than to have someone but be in a relationship that's going nowhere. Apa baby also no need to think. And it's even worst cos you know you're in a position to be able to achieve your 'goal'... but you still can't cos, well, it's going nowhere. Dissonance kau kau.
I think I need retail therapy, too. Am tired with a lot of things. Need some time out to do nothing but look at pretty clothes and spend money. Haha.
You guys seriously don't talk about this subject at all ? So long d wor..
And yes, I totally understand what you're saying about going nowhere. It can be so frustrating as you can't see where you'll be in the future. You don't even know if you can have a future with this guy. So, for now, I think I kinda like my single life though it gets lonely at times. But at least I can enjoy myself and have lots of me-time ! =)
What's up with you ? Why tired with a lot of things ? I'm here if you need someone to share to or rant to. Just let it out here or you can send me a mail. I understand how life gets..
ATTN: Melissa – Okay, I'm back with a second attempt at posting a comment. Haha.
Well, we don't talk about this subject anymore. No point, actually. We used to lah. But... not anymore. Less complicated this way. Less painful, too.
I find it very difficult to approach the subject, too. Cos whenever he talks about it, it creates expectation. And somehow, whenever I have expectations, I always end up getting disappointed. So much so that I start thinking the worst now. "What if it doesn't work out?" "What if he finds another girl while he's so far away." "What if he's with another girl NOW??" I know it's sick in some ways but... It makes it easier for me. At least I'll never get hurt.
Last time of course we had dreams lah. But they were childish dreams to begin with. Dreams that died when he went abroad to study... and now work. We spoke of finishing our studies, working awhile then getting married after saving money and all that but... now that he's not even here anymore, what also no need to talk already. He's not here. End of story.
Plus, I strongly believe that all this marriage-engagement talk should be initiated by the guy. Never the girl. Girls are meant to be pursued. We were created that way. Men were created to find their beauty to rescue. Not the other way around. Read "Wild at Heart" or "Captivating" by John Elderage to know what I'm talking about if you're blur at this point. This is the way God intended it to be. And I'm comfortable with that system. I feel really weird talking about it now even.
And babe, enjoy your singlehood. I was since for a little over a year back in 2005 and I totally had a blast. Seriously. Life was great day in and day out. Not a care in the world and no worries. I had plenty of good times with my friends and we did all sorts of silly things I wouldn't have been able to do if I was attached. We traveled a little, stayed up all night, had movie marathons, sleepovers and countless chats in the park till the wee hours of dawn. I LOVED IT! I miss it, actually. Times with friends you care about are truly times to be cherished lah.
BUT... singlehood does have its cons. The loneliness factor you mentioned is one. Fortunately for me, I didn't actually feel that much when I was single during that year. I enjoyed myself. No regrets. Haha. Just heaps of fun and good times. =p
Oh, and I had LOADS AND LOADS of me time. =p Maybe that's why I'm tired. I haven't really had time for me. It's always been work, church, him... then bedtime hits. I don't really have time to focus on me. I mean, yeah, I blog and all and it's sort of my Me Time but... I miss the pampering I used to give myself. It's been awhile. =p
And no wonder I didn't know you blogged. You're with MySpace! Haha.
Hey babe, Sorry for the late reply. I was so busy yesterday that I did not have any time to go online at all.
I've read John Elderage's Wild At Heart very briefly but I loved the book. It's supposed to be a man's book but I love it.
And yes, I agree and fully support that it is a man's 'job' to pursue a gal. I am old-fashioned and traditional because I believe that marriage proposal has to be done by the guy. Call me anything you like but that is truly the right way. All those crap about women who propose to their guy and all won't do for me. I hereby swear that I'll NEVER do that, even if I really want that guy, I'll Never !! Haha..
I can identify with what you're feeling. Long-distance relationships are difficult and especially when you need him to be there for you and he can't, that's the thing that makes it so much more difficult to work out. Vice versa. The first time I ever got involved was with a really wonderful guy and too bad it couldn't work out because of our religion differences. The second time was painful because after taking so long to heal, just to get myself hurt and my heart broken again, I vowed to myself never again. Unless I really know that he is the guy God has destined for me, I'm not gonna get into any relationships anymore.
And I think that you really need to unwind and treat yourself with be it a day at the spa or getting yourself a mani and a pedi =) You've earned it.
Quoting the famous Maybelline tagline, You're Worth It !!
ATTN: Melissa – Argh, I've just had the longest, most tiring day of my life. Am about ready to drop dead. Ugh.
You should read Captivating. It's the woman version of Wild At Heart. I loved it. It explained a lot about the reasons I always feel the way I feel. And then I realised it's not that I'm being weird. I'm being the way God INTENDED me to be. The way I feel isn't wrong by God's standards.
I'd never propose to my guy, too. Haha. I guess that makes two of us. So what we'll do is grow old and stay single. (As in not married.) Or start looking at greener pastures that promise better 'rewards' if the waiting time is really far too long. Haha.
Hey, I didn't know you dated. Haha. These guys from YI? And it's true lah babe. Hurtful relationships kill parts of us. Slowly but surely, we start dying on the inside due to the hurt we receive from the people who SAY they love us... but don't show it enough. That's why choosing a partner is SO important. It makes or breaks you.
Healthy relationships are supposed to make you a better person. Help you discover yourself. And to carry you through times of self discovery. It grows you as a person. And it grows your social circle. Not crush and suffocate it. Bad relationships cause you to lose yourself. Basically the opposite of what a good relationship does.
I'd go for a mani/pedi if I had the time, babe. It's the TIME factor. Haha.
And "You're Worth It" is L'Oréal's tagline. Not Maybelline. Haha. Maybelline's tagline is "Maybe it's Maybelline." =p Trust me. I know. I write for them. Haha.
First and foremost, My sincerest apologies. I meant to say L'Oreal kay but typed the wrong thing. It was either that I was too sleepy or in the rush to go to bed. Hehe =P Sorry !
I think that I should get my hands on Captivating then. Will help me to understand raging emotions that I myself sometimes do not understand. It's difficult, you know and I don't care what people always assume, it's really NOT because of the hormons.
I think I'll probably grow old, stay in someone's basement with lots of cats ( although I hate cats, just figuratively due to the image portrayed of old spinsters in the movies, Thanks America ) and die. But granted, truth to be told, I'd rather not marry rather than marry the wrong guy. It'll make the rest of my life somewhat a living hell because I know this, that when we go against the will of God and move at our own pace, it'll NEVER work out.
Oh, hmmmm.. One of the guys. But it was never official. He said he loved me but turns out, they were just mere words. Not truth, spoken from the heart. So one day, he just stopped loving me. I couldn't do anything. I was left to pick up the pieces on my own. I resolved to forgive him. I choose not to harbour any anger or bitterness against him because I think that he is not worth all that. I can get on with life without him and I have proved it. I got on splendidly =)
But I do hold on to something when it comes to BGR, the guy must always love the gal more than she loves him. I don't know if John Elderage says anything like that but it works that way. Gals are naturally more faithful and loyal than guys. And when we do get into this, we give it our best. Am I right ? So yeah.. I think that that's a good principle.
Well, I do hope to be able to find some good bargains for good stuff this weekend. Can't wait for tmr !!
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Does Ky-Shen need a little, say 'encouragement' or not ?? Hahaha =P
Hey, at least you already have someone kay, if you've read the articles I posted on my page, I don't even have that someone yet.
Makes achieving my 'goal' more difficult, don't you think ?
Ou, I'll be coming to KL this weekend for some retail therapy. Hehe..
P/S : Amo babies are cuter la.. =)
ATTN: Melissa
– Haha. I think you posted this comment on a wrong page lah. Haha.
And... I dunno if Ky-Shen needs encouragement. We don't talk about marriage.
And please. It's better to have no one than to have someone but be in a relationship that's going nowhere. Apa baby also no need to think. And it's even worst cos you know you're in a position to be able to achieve your 'goal'... but you still can't cos, well, it's going nowhere. Dissonance kau kau.
I think I need retail therapy, too. Am tired with a lot of things. Need some time out to do nothing but look at pretty clothes and spend money. Haha.
I can't get to your blog. What's your blog add?
Yeah yeah, I think I did lo. Haha.
You guys seriously don't talk about this subject at all ? So long d wor..
And yes, I totally understand what you're saying about going nowhere. It can be so frustrating as you can't see where you'll be in the future. You don't even know if you can have a future with this guy. So, for now, I think I kinda like my single life though it gets lonely at times. But at least I can enjoy myself and have lots of me-time ! =)
What's up with you ? Why tired with a lot of things ? I'm here if you need someone to share to or rant to. Just let it out here or you can send me a mail. I understand how life gets..
It's www.myspace.com/melissacheah.
Take care..
ATTN: Melissa
– AARRGGHH!!! I typed a really long comment reply and then my internet connection went bust so it got lost in Cyberspace. ARGH!!!
Sigh. Reply you in a bit.
ATTN: Melissa
– Okay, I'm back with a second attempt at posting a comment. Haha.
Well, we don't talk about this subject anymore. No point, actually. We used to lah. But... not anymore. Less complicated this way. Less painful, too.
I find it very difficult to approach the subject, too. Cos whenever he talks about it, it creates expectation. And somehow, whenever I have expectations, I always end up getting disappointed. So much so that I start thinking the worst now. "What if it doesn't work out?" "What if he finds another girl while he's so far away." "What if he's with another girl NOW??" I know it's sick in some ways but... It makes it easier for me. At least I'll never get hurt.
Last time of course we had dreams lah. But they were childish dreams to begin with. Dreams that died when he went abroad to study... and now work. We spoke of finishing our studies, working awhile then getting married after saving money and all that but... now that he's not even here anymore, what also no need to talk already. He's not here. End of story.
Plus, I strongly believe that all this marriage-engagement talk should be initiated by the guy. Never the girl. Girls are meant to be pursued. We were created that way. Men were created to find their beauty to rescue. Not the other way around. Read "Wild at Heart" or "Captivating" by John Elderage to know what I'm talking about if you're blur at this point. This is the way God intended it to be. And I'm comfortable with that system. I feel really weird talking about it now even.
And babe, enjoy your singlehood. I was since for a little over a year back in 2005 and I totally had a blast. Seriously. Life was great day in and day out. Not a care in the world and no worries. I had plenty of good times with my friends and we did all sorts of silly things I wouldn't have been able to do if I was attached. We traveled a little, stayed up all night, had movie marathons, sleepovers and countless chats in the park till the wee hours of dawn. I LOVED IT! I miss it, actually. Times with friends you care about are truly times to be cherished lah.
BUT... singlehood does have its cons. The loneliness factor you mentioned is one. Fortunately for me, I didn't actually feel that much when I was single during that year. I enjoyed myself. No regrets. Haha. Just heaps of fun and good times. =p
Oh, and I had LOADS AND LOADS of me time. =p Maybe that's why I'm tired. I haven't really had time for me. It's always been work, church, him... then bedtime hits. I don't really have time to focus on me. I mean, yeah, I blog and all and it's sort of my Me Time but... I miss the pampering I used to give myself. It's been awhile. =p
And no wonder I didn't know you blogged. You're with MySpace! Haha.
Hey babe,
Sorry for the late reply. I was so busy yesterday that I did not have any time to go online at all.
I've read John Elderage's Wild At Heart very briefly but I loved the book. It's supposed to be a man's book but I love it.
And yes, I agree and fully support that it is a man's 'job' to pursue a gal. I am old-fashioned and traditional because I believe that marriage proposal has to be done by the guy. Call me anything you like but that is truly the right way. All those crap about women who propose to their guy and all won't do for me. I hereby swear that I'll NEVER do that, even if I really want that guy, I'll Never !! Haha..
I can identify with what you're feeling. Long-distance relationships are difficult and especially when you need him to be there for you and he can't, that's the thing that makes it so much more difficult to work out. Vice versa. The first time I ever got involved was with a really wonderful guy and too bad it couldn't work out because of our religion differences. The second time was painful because after taking so long to heal, just to get myself hurt and my heart broken again, I vowed to myself never again. Unless I really know that he is the guy God has destined for me, I'm not gonna get into any relationships anymore.
And I think that you really need to unwind and treat yourself with be it a day at the spa or getting yourself a mani and a pedi =)
You've earned it.
Quoting the famous Maybelline tagline, You're Worth It !!
*hugs*
ATTN: Melissa
– Argh, I've just had the longest, most tiring day of my life. Am about ready to drop dead. Ugh.
You should read Captivating. It's the woman version of Wild At Heart. I loved it. It explained a lot about the reasons I always feel the way I feel. And then I realised it's not that I'm being weird. I'm being the way God INTENDED me to be. The way I feel isn't wrong by God's standards.
I'd never propose to my guy, too. Haha. I guess that makes two of us. So what we'll do is grow old and stay single. (As in not married.) Or start looking at greener pastures that promise better 'rewards' if the waiting time is really far too long. Haha.
Hey, I didn't know you dated. Haha. These guys from YI? And it's true lah babe. Hurtful relationships kill parts of us. Slowly but surely, we start dying on the inside due to the hurt we receive from the people who SAY they love us... but don't show it enough. That's why choosing a partner is SO important. It makes or breaks you.
Healthy relationships are supposed to make you a better person. Help you discover yourself. And to carry you through times of self discovery. It grows you as a person. And it grows your social circle. Not crush and suffocate it. Bad relationships cause you to lose yourself. Basically the opposite of what a good relationship does.
I'd go for a mani/pedi if I had the time, babe. It's the TIME factor. Haha.
And "You're Worth It" is L'Oréal's tagline. Not Maybelline. Haha. Maybelline's tagline is "Maybe it's Maybelline." =p Trust me. I know. I write for them. Haha.
First and foremost,
My sincerest apologies. I meant to say L'Oreal kay but typed the wrong thing. It was either that I was too sleepy or in the rush to go to bed. Hehe =P Sorry !
I think that I should get my hands on Captivating then. Will help me to understand raging emotions that I myself sometimes do not understand. It's difficult, you know and I don't care what people always assume, it's really NOT because of the hormons.
I think I'll probably grow old, stay in someone's basement with lots of cats ( although I hate cats, just figuratively due to the image portrayed of old spinsters in the movies, Thanks America ) and die. But granted, truth to be told, I'd rather not marry rather than marry the wrong guy. It'll make the rest of my life somewhat a living hell because I know this, that when we go against the will of God and move at our own pace, it'll NEVER work out.
Oh, hmmmm.. One of the guys. But it was never official. He said he loved me but turns out, they were just mere words. Not truth, spoken from the heart. So one day, he just stopped loving me. I couldn't do anything. I was left to pick up the pieces on my own. I resolved to forgive him. I choose not to harbour any anger or bitterness against him because I think that he is not worth all that. I can get on with life without him and I have proved it. I got on splendidly =)
But I do hold on to something when it comes to BGR, the guy must always love the gal more than she loves him. I don't know if John Elderage says anything like that but it works that way. Gals are naturally more faithful and loyal than guys. And when we do get into this, we give it our best. Am I right ? So yeah.. I think that that's a good principle.
Well, I do hope to be able to find some good bargains for good stuff this weekend. Can't wait for tmr !!
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