"Cute’s good. But cute only lasts for so long, and then it’s, 'Who are you as a person?' That’s the advice I would give to women: Don’t look at the bankbook or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul. Look at how the guy treats his mother and what he says about women. How he acts with children he doesn’t know. And, more important, how does he treat you? When you’re dating a man, you should always feel good. You should never feel less than. You should never doubt yourself. You shouldn’t be in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t make you completely happy and make you feel whole. And if you’re in that relationship and you’re dating, then my advice is, don’t get married."
– First Lady Michelle Obama to Katie Couric in an interview for
Glamour magazine's Women of the Year issue, December 2009
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Glamour magazine's Women of the Year issue, December 2009
[Source]Yes, you're looking at the cover of Glamour's December issue. So, yes, I can see into the future. And yes, Michelle Obama has a point.
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She does!
ATTN: Lissa
– Haha. I see you're in full agreement! =p
And yes, no one could have said what she said, BETTER! She's the BOMB!
What she said about being in a relationship should be every woman's mantra - We should live it up!
And I wanted to share some really great insights from this new age sensitive yet brilliant man called Steve Harvey;
"The first step, I think, is to get over the fear of losing a man by confronting him. Just stop being afraid, already. The most successful people in this world recognize that taking chances to get what they want is much more productive than sitting around being too scared to take a shot. The same philosophy can be applied to dating: if putting your requirements on the table means you risk him walking away, it's a risk you have to take. Because that fear can trip you up every time; all too many of you let the guy get away with disrespecting you, putting in minimal effort and holding on to the commitment to you because you're afraid he's going to walk away and you'll be alone again. And we men? We recognize this and play on it, big time."
"All I'm telling you to do is to be smart about it. Know that if this man isn't looking for a serious relationship, you're not going to change his mind just because you two are going on dates and being intimate. You could be the most perfect woman on the Lord's green earth-you're capable of interesting conversation, you cook a mean breakfast, you hand out backrubs like sandwiches, you're independent (which means, to him, that you're not going to be in his pockets)-but if he's not ready for a serious relationship, he going to treat you like sports fish."
"I'm sure that if woman laid out the rules- requirements- early on, and let her intended know that he could either rise up to those requirements, or just move on. A directive like that signals to a man that you are not a plaything-someone to be used and discarded. It tells him that what you have- your benefits- are special, and that you need time to get to know him and his ways to decide if he DESERVES them.
The man who is willing to put in the time and meet the requirements is the one you want to stick around, because that guy is making a conscious decision that he, too, has no interest in playing games and will do what it takes to not only stay on the job, but also get promoted and be the proud beneficiary of your benefits. And you, in the meantime, win the ultimate prize of maintaining your dignity and self-esteem, and earning the respect of the man who recognized that you were worth the wait."
— Steve Harvey (Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment)
I'm thinking seriously about getting his book, might just do that. Would love to see more great insights from a man's point of view!
ATTN: Whaley Bear
– Haha. Full support, I see. =p
GOTTA. READ. THAT. BOOK!
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