What if at some time in the past, you've said "no" to the person who could have been right for you? What if you dated and then left the one who could have turned out to be meant for you? What if you never gave The One his chance (or time enough) to become The One? Then you're pretty much screwed, right?
But on the flip-side...
What if you say "yes" to his advances, end up dating, stick and not leave, give him a chance to be The One, get engaged, get married... and then wake up one morning realising that you married the wrong man? Then you're screwed, too, no?
Ugh. Relationships are a landmine of what-ifs!
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hmmm... seems like many 'what if' questions you are thinking in regards to relationship..
ATTN: 'mike.
– Whoa! Long time no see. Haha. Well, they were passing thoughts. Not like they're robbing me of my mental health or sleep lah. Haha. You ever think those thoughts?
"what-if" does not matter that much, "how can i make things better", that matters more..
someone once told me not to linger on the past..
life's too short for pondering the "what if".. it comes.. it goes..
when the storm comes embrace it.. when the sunny days comes go out have a good time.. life could be simple & pleasant if u allow it..
^^
ok, I cannot tahan. Have to say this though its not related to your post.
2 DEATHS IN SEASON 5 OF GA?!
wth!
A bit slow in catching up with the lastest GA episodes here,but hehe. :D
I mean, :(( 2 deaths! I loved O'Malley! Damn sad lo, when they finally realised who it was.
the trick is, don't bother
hmm, for me i never think of anything that has passed, cos i know it is not going to help,so i better to look infront :P
ATTN: Leonard
– Hmm. True. But what-ifs are passive-aggressive while how-can-I-make-things-betters are very action oriented. The latter's more tiring to do. HAHA.
Although... you can't really make things better if you don't know what the answers are.
ATTN: Jack
– So Zen!
ATTN: choco
– I KNOW RIGHHTTTT??? Heartbreak! And why you so lag wan? Update a bit can? =p But they never confirm that O'Malley die also.
ATTN: Resurrected
– Eee. Where can?? And not so easy lorrr.
ATTN: Otosa re ta tenshi
– Is this HB or Jan???
*grin*
But yeah. Looking forward is ideal. But... isn't it normal to wonder sometimes?
like totally lor.
Jia Lat is the word..
But then.. sigh.. the more we dwell with the past, the more jia lat we will be..
what more can we do? make the best of everything lor..
Jan.
Paiseh.. the wrong msg won't happen again, last time was an accident..
ooh, typo - it's better to look in front..
hahaha, ya la damn lag. Ok la, they didn't confirm his death but but but. Izzie(sp ?) saw him outside the elevator!
And he was wearing his army uniform!
Argh. Cannot wait for season 6!
Was just being erm simplistic. The thing is, you'd never know. And to not think about it at all would be kinda weird. But for me, I am waiting for the time when I won't even hesitate. No qualms. No doubt.
And upon marriage or a relationship, it's all hard work for both persons...and yes it is a risk. But the only way to get screwed is really when one party stops working at it.
ATTN: yapthomas
– Memang kau jia lat. Haih. Haha. So how? So eat ayam penyet and baby crab to forget everything lorrr. =p
ATTN: Otosa re ta tenshi
– Hahaha. Ok. So from now on I'll know it's you! Haha.
ATTN: choco
– A friend of mine say he confirm not coming back to the show. Izzie no news yet. -_-''' Babi. Suddenly in the middle of the day kena spoiler.
ATTN: Resurrected
– That's true actually. When there's hesitation, it's rarely a good sign. It means there's uncertainty. And it's bad going into anything if there's an ounce of hesitation. Especially when it comes to spending the rest of your life with someone. No turning back once the decision is made.
And true lor. When ppl stop fighting for the relationship, that's when the relationship dies.
But hesitation may be a normal self-defence mechanism. So it depends on what kind of hesitation as well actually.
Yup...fighting to keep it alive. And a lot of trust and openness required. Once you start hiding things, that's it. But gotta balance between between full disclosure and necessary disclosure ie. things that are irrelevant/unproductive to making the relationship better.
ATTN: Resurrected
– Yeah, it's definitely for self-defence. But... if you really trust the person you're with, why find a need to defend yourself from them? It's off already.
And yeah. I agree with the hiding thingy. Even lying. Wah, I really beh tahan lying.
What has ayam penyet and baby crab gotta do with this? hahaha...
ATTN: yapthomas
– Nothing, actually. Haha. But I'll think of something. =p
You've got 2 weeks to think about something...
ATTN: yapthomas
– Cheh! I shall take my time, thank you very much. You go be international.
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