Wednesday, January 03, 2007

What Have I To Offer?

Hello dear 2007-tiers! I went on one of my quiz crazes again (some things don't change although old years have gone by and new years have come around) and stumbled upon this particular one: What Element Is Your Love?


*blink blink*


Whoa. Check that out, man! The terror-ness of it all. I tell you, people come up with all sorts of things these days. And the most amazing thing is that there are actually people like me who'd actually spend time doing stuff like that! "What element?" Haha. Amazing.


So… Did you end up having an earth, wind,
water, fire or metal kind of love?
As for me, it appears that I'm an Earthling. Heh.
(Phew, turns out I was born on the right planet.)



…who also seems to have a thing for heavy metal some of the time.

(I did the quiz twice cos I just couldn't decide on
the answer for the blasted final question. =p)



NOTE: Results of the quiz have been tampered with
and "unnecessary" information, a.k.a information
that is deemed against Tinki Talks policies
or against Tinki's beliefs, have been removed.


*snicker*


Well, I haven't come to the point of this post, have I? Haha. Forgive me for rambling but it's been awhile since I've had the chance to do so, so just humour me, okay? Thank you you veli mush. =)


*great, big, toothy grin*


Okay. I'll get to the point now.
This question got to me.
It got to me big time.


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I must say. I took awhile on this question (the aforementioned blasted final question). Yes, quite awhile. I thought about it and I thought about it some more. What was actually the most important combination of the list to me and what was it that I had to offer my potential partner? I didn't know. That's when the trouble starts. When you don't know what you have and what your strong points are, then the result comes in a one word answer repeated once over, with "la" added in between for the Malaysian effect – "Die la, die."


See, if you don't know what you have to offer, you definitely don't know what you deserve to get. Sigh. This is important stuff, dudes and dudettes! I knew I had to figure it out. Am I one to provide the necessary security and consistency? Do I practice integrity in dealing with them? Or am I compassionate, understanding and blessed with wisdom? Or, alternatively, am I open, certain and generous? Or is it strength, respect and inspiration that I bring into my relationship? Or is it passion, joy and energy that I have to offer my partner? I didn't know.


I believe that the result of the quiz was hugely dependent
(but not entirely) on the answer I provided in Question 5: -


[CHOICE 1]

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…versus…


[CHOICE 2]

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I ran through my answers again and after awhile, I realized what it was. There WAS a distinction! The first answer, a.k.a Choice 1, was what I actually WANTED in a partner. But what I had to offer was Choice 2 (which, of course, was selected after more thought than the first). Hmmm. Then it got me thinking, "Am I being fair? How could I possibly expect to have a partner who possesses those qualities when I myself am not able to offer those strengths to him in return?" Aih. How la liddat? This could only mean one thing – there is a need for me to improve myself. I now know three areas to work on in my life – (1) security, (2) consistency and (3) integrity.


It's so easy to see the faults in others but we often ignore the same faults in ourselves, no? Thank goodness for silly online quizzes of such or I would probably never have noticed that I needed work in these areas. After all, before looking for the right partner, one should always start by looking inwards and being the right person for the good of ones future partner. 2007 hasn't yet fully kicked in and already, there's work to be done! Hi ho! Hi ho!


One thing though. Perhaps it's a gender thing. I don't know. I'm just guessing. Maybe women are more prone to be naturally able to offer certain qualities (e.g. respect) while guys are more prone to offer others (e.g. security). It kinda brings us back to the gender roles that we have been taught to play. As such, women find it easier to respect their male counterparts while men are naturally geared to provide the necessary security that his woman would require. Hmmm. I'm still working it out in my head but this theory works too, no? What say you?

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