Was talking to a friend online just a few days back. You know, one of those friends you think you can easily talk to but rarely ever find yourself talking to (we haven't spoken in close to FIVE years, I think) when you're no longer running in the same social circles. Heh. Yeah, I've got a number of such friends, actually.
Good relationships fly you straight up to the highest of heavens; Anyhew, somewhere along our conversation,
I said something I'd like to remember.
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I said something I'd like to remember.
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bad relationships drag you right into the deepest pits of hell.
- pamsong, 24 May 2007
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It's true isn't it?
There are only a handful of things that hold enough power to pile on the stress – family, relationship and finances. Now, we all know why people stress about family problems so I won't even bother going into that. And if you've ever had 10 days to go with only RM50 in your wallet, you'd also know how financial problems can be a powerful stress factor. So let's get into the more interesting bit, shall we? Let's dive straight into BGR.
Good, healthy boy-girl relationships make everyday better than the last. I'm not just trying to make it all sound good. That wasn't a line. It's truth. Why? Because good BGR brings out the best in both parties involved. And when the best of you meets the best of your partner, how could any day be worse than the day that's just passed you by? It's highly impossible. Two positives don't result in a negative.
Don't get me wrong, though. I'm not saying that there will never be hang-ups; I'm not saying that there'll never be storms that you'll both have to weather. All I'm saying is that when it's you against the world (not you against each other), it'll never just be you. "You'll never walk alone." And when you're in a good relationship, you'll KNOW that. You'll feel it in your bones.
Such relationships become your sanctuary in this crazy, mixed-up world. All at once, you feel like less of a disappointment simply because you know that no matter what, you've got Acceptance by your side. They make you feel complete. (Not that you weren't complete before.) And most importantly, they really do double the joy and divide the bad.
Good, healthy boy-girl relationships make everyday better than the last. I'm not just trying to make it all sound good. That wasn't a line. It's truth. Why? Because good BGR brings out the best in both parties involved. And when the best of you meets the best of your partner, how could any day be worse than the day that's just passed you by? It's highly impossible. Two positives don't result in a negative.
Don't get me wrong, though. I'm not saying that there will never be hang-ups; I'm not saying that there'll never be storms that you'll both have to weather. All I'm saying is that when it's you against the world (not you against each other), it'll never just be you. "You'll never walk alone." And when you're in a good relationship, you'll KNOW that. You'll feel it in your bones.
Such relationships become your sanctuary in this crazy, mixed-up world. All at once, you feel like less of a disappointment simply because you know that no matter what, you've got Acceptance by your side. They make you feel complete. (Not that you weren't complete before.) And most importantly, they really do double the joy and divide the bad.
As for the bad ones...
well, they do the total opposite.
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I know, I know. I snitched that line.
Go, Liverpool. Happy now?
well, they do the total opposite.
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I know, I know. I snitched that line.
Go, Liverpool. Happy now?
20 comments :
what you quoted is rather true.. it's jus tat it's not always the beautiful picture.. when problem came, sometimes a relationship add up with the problem will make it worst.. because of different opinion and thoughts.. but life is really beautiful when we have someone to share every moment with.. i totally totally think so..
Well, yeah, when there are different opinions but nobody's putting anybody first or talking things out rationally. What else could it be but bad?
I think that communication is key. As long as you communicate that you both want to solve the problem, even if there are different ideas and opinions, it doesn't matter. All those opinions are for ONE purpose ma. The SAME purpose. For the problem to go away.
Sometimes it's not about solving the problem (yet). But for the person who's going through the problem to know that their partner is there for them, rooting for them, no matter what their decision may be.
This talk goes back to the type of guy you're dating. When you say that a relationship adds on to the problem, what kind of man are you dating? See?
And yeah. Life IS beautiful when you've got someone to share it with. =)
tats why i alwaz wanted to talk things out whenever i hav the emotional stress.. i can't leave it to myself.. i need him to talk me out.. sometimes he said, minor things like tat don alwaz bug him.. then i told him, if i hav a bf n he can't listen to my prob, wat's my bf for?? ya i admit tat sometimes it's personal thoughts that courses myself problem.. but i told him, if i can solve it, wat use u?? then finally only he willing to talk talk things out.. sigh! seems like i was the one who do the explanation.. haha..
Hmmm. Well, I find that it's best not to talk immediately whenever there's emotional stress. I agree with going to a partner for support IMMEDIATELY as soon as the stress strikes. No doubt about it. But finding a solution is best left to Tomorrow. While still emo sure tak jadi wan lah. Later fight even more then die. But bottom line is HAVE TO TALK and COMMUNICATE la. It's not just talking. It's making sure there's understanding.
heh
good quote man...
take care, hv a good week ahead Pammie!
God bless!
Haha. Thank you, thank you. =)
Weekend? What weekend? I didn't have one. =p
something like wat u mention la.. i'm jus not so good in explanation at times.. haha.. go pam!
Haha. Woo hoo! So next time I be your translator ah? Haha.
can be my english teacher also.. haha..
Waaa. Got bo so great honour? Later Pn Madanjeet jealous. HAHA.
eerr?? i almost forgot that Madanjeet woman liao if u din mention.. hahaa.. bad bad..
Haiyo! She was pretty okay ma. Quite nice. With her punjabi suit and her small small teeny-tiny bun. Haha.
haha.. ya la.. she's quite a nice teacher.. she always ask me how i'm doing during form 5 even though she no longer teaches me.. :P
Haha. She ah. When I went back with Guat Hoon and Sze Min to visit, she like remember a bit, dun remember a bit. But that was after like 5 years since we left school la. HAHA.
i never go visit after grad.. haha..
li yuin told me puan khita.. err dunno spell her name.. haha... she said she's real nice.. and she remember us..
Of course! I saw her, too. She's the best Science teacher there ever was la. Really. If not for her, sure a lot of us fail Science di. Mana tau, thanks to her, all score A. She's da best, man.
Eh, why you tak kenang budi wan. Should go look see look see once in awhile ma. Haiyo.
kenang budi in the heart ma.. haha..
i agree la.. even though were really afraid when attending her class but she's really a great teacher.. at least la i got a B.. haha.. else i guarantee fail!
You remember or not she always arrange the student seating position according to her in-class test results wan? Haha. Always those who score lowest sit right in front of her, man! Can die wan. And the when she ask question, if you can answer, you keep sitting. If cannot, you stand all the way. Haha. She rocks la. I tell you she picked me up from Pn Jacob Yu's time, man! When I was studying under Pn Jacob ah, everyday go class play only. Haha. Thank goodness Keetha came along and saved the day.
Jacob?? we call her biscuit la.. branded man!! and she alwaz yell at me.. i dunno y.. maybe i was too loud.. and her chinese name's the same as mind.. only the surname diff.. hahaha...
ya lo.. keetha class i alwaz in the front roll.. (guilty)... hahhaa...
So bad la you all. I liked her. Haha. She made really good kuih.
Keetha made sure that Lynn Shan, Shu Yan and I stayed at the last row. Or else she give us the face like very disappointed liddat wan.
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