It's not about narcissism. Or selfishness.
It's about accepting and living with denial. It's about doing everything in your power to avoid facing the fear. The fear of being dependent. The fear of no longer being self-sufficient. And from all that births the need for self-preservation.
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"You've got to lean into the fear
to get your happy ending."
And sometimes dependence/self-sufficiency are simply matters of perspective.
I'm doing all I can to do just that... and it's taking a huge toll on me.
But I think it's worth every man's (or woman's) his (or her) salt.
ATTN: boone
– Hmmm. True. But the fear's just too real. So then what?
ATTN: §pinzer
– Well, it's tiring being independent all the time. But... it's better than finding yourself in a position of dependence on someone other than yourself. Because (in most cases), the people you find yourself depending on aren't a hundred percent dependable after all. ='(
ATTN: pamsong
- I believe fear can be overcome - with patience, courage and faith. Like your previous post mentioned; courage to overcome fear sometimes requires a leap of faith...hence, leaning into the fear.
And remember, the fear's not just on your side. We all have something to lose.
Conversely, you have just as much to gain as the other, if not more.
IMHO, a change in perspective helps.
Pam, well that's when friends play their part.. Note: FriendS not friend.. When one cannot be depended, another can come and help out..
If you treat me as a friend, I wouldn't mind lending ya helping hands when you need them.. Simply cause you're my friend.. =)
Fear is not avoidable, it's to be overcome, when the fear itself is too much to be overcome by one, then two or more should do it.. xD
ATTN: boone
– But but but... Overcoming the fear just takes far too long and too much effort! Can't I just run from it? I used to be a sprinter. I think I'd do okay with the running. =p
And I get what you mean about everybody having something to lose. It's just that some people focus on what there is to gain (glass half full), while people like me focus on what they fear they'll lose (glass half empty). Sigh. You're right. It's about perspective. But... perspective is a toughie to mess with, too.
ATTN: Jeffro
– Awww, that was a nice comment, Jeffro. Thanks. It was really sweet.
Collective fear reduction. Interesting concept you have there. Very interesting indeed.
*winks* U betcha! And ya don't have to worry, since there's like a bunch of us around, so whenever u need any of us.. All ya gotta do is holla at us.. But pls, no yelling ya.. =D
ATTN: Jeffro
– Haha. I'm going to hold you to your word. And... since when do I yell?
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