Was YouTube-video hopping before bedtime when I stumbled upon this one that got my panties up in knots and my head cracking over one troubling thought.
Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston during pre-Brangelina, happier times.
Don't know why but this video's got me all emo over the parting of ways between these two people who once pledged their undying love for each other. Maybe it's the choice of song – Home by Michael Bublé. It's always been one of those songs for me. You know? The kind that messes with my head and screws with my insides. Sigh.
Thing is, I'm trying to figure this one out but I can't.
I don't get it. So help me understand this:
Why do people who think that getting a divorce is okay,
bother getting married in the first place?
I don't get it. So help me understand this:
Why do people who think that getting a divorce is okay,
bother getting married in the first place?
I don't get it. I don't get them.
And what sucks bigger time for anti-divorce people like me is that there's no telling for sure if the person you're with is one who's in it for the long-haul (i.e. forever-ever, till death do us part)... or not. What if you happen to pledge yourself to a person who's only going to do the same when things are going all fine and dandy? What if they're open to the possibility of telling you they love you one day, and then telling you that they don't anymore, the next? What if "I do" only means "I do... for now"? What then?
12 comments :
these people dun deserve love as it was meant to be. period.
ATTN: sheon
– You're right.
haha, i think a funny twist to the title should be "I Do? Or Did I?"..
ok...maybe its just me..
Divorce should never be in anyone's dictionary. But then, it's always hard to judge. We are talking about bridging two whole different world into one. It's like marrying an angel with a devil. Heck, even they know love better than us humans.
Why pledge love when you can pledge... life?
ATTN: sheon
– Haha. Means what? Shotgun marriage in Vegas? =p
ATTN: yapthomas
– Well, to me it seems like divorce is just the easy way out. Rather than stay and fight, people run. Irresponsible cowards run.
And yes. Pledging life is somewhat different from pledging love. Cos pledging life is forever. Hmmm. Food for thought, most definitely.
Good one!
What a bad example of a couple you chose, a Hollywood couple!, where "irreconcilable" divorces are norm. Their marriages are as much of a show as their showbiz career.
Getting a divorce actually isnt all that bad of a solution if you dont have any kids. Its like you didnt like the food at the BBC, u opted not to eat. Becoz you could go (and actually did go) somewhere else to eat. Hmmm, did i make any sense there? blergh? I mean, you didnt like the food and there was a choice for you to say, "Sod it! I'll eat elsewhere." (Psst, who's the irresponsible coward now who chose to run away to the mamak, instead of fighting and chomping down your food, tsk tsk tsk!!)
So, if anyone is suffering in an unhappy union and going downward spiral, u want it all to end when reconciliation is exhausted. Possibly a divorce can turn a corner.
(Footy analogy here)
Tottenham fired their boss, that's a divorce aye, (they were at the bottom of league, and internally lots of doldrums wif the current management, then they hired a new manager, inspired a new lease of life, got results goin their way and on the way up. I guess their supporter is happy wif that divorce. Keyword: inspired.
p/s: I dont condone divorce, but hey, sometimes, u gotta sign on that dotted line.
*supporters are unhappy*, (i hate it when i make these errors.)
ATTN: Chris
– Eh eh! What now? Hollywood couples aren't human issit? They don't live in our universe or something? They're pretty much like us. Except a little more superficial cos of the lifestyle they've adopted.
I believe that Brad and Jen really loved each other when they first got together. Even when they got married. And even when Brad chose to leave, I believe that Jen still loved him. She said it herself. That she'll always love him. Even now, it is rumoured that they miss their friendship. Cos they were best friends. Even when they were together. That's the depth of the relationship they shared.
But ah... what do I know about all these things. That's what the tabloids say only.
I think divorce should be avoided whenever possible. Sure, there are times when divorce seems the SMARTER solutions (i.e. in abuse cases, etc...) but it isn't always the case. Nowadays, people tend to look at it too lightly. I say: Go for therapy! Share a hobby! Do that tell-your-spouse-you-love-them-before-bed thingy. Do ANYTHING! Try EVERYTHING!
Your relationship deserves at least that from you.
But you oredi said "They're pretty much like us. Except a little more superficial cos of the lifestyle they've adopted."
So they are not perfect examples to begin with. When Tinseltown couples get married, you'll always hear, "how long do ya think they'll last?". So that sets them apart from non-celeb ppl. Look at that Kate Hudson. *Shivers*
Yea, divorces are tough, my neighbour's family sort of disintegrated when the mom left the family and went off wif some old sugar daddy. One of my ex-colleague's a divorcee too, her daughter's still young, she spends half the week wif mom and the other wif dad. Interesting to see how she grows up to be. Asian culture, divorces not that prevalent, errmm except the young teens who got pregnant n rushed into marriage. I know like 5 cases of my frens or mutual frens. For the kids sake, stick around.
When u dont have kids on the other hand, there's less of an obligation to hang around if there're no avenues left for marital bliss anymore. So far, i only knew a divorcee who got remarried and rediscover her bliss (i hope).
I guess, a little bit of high EQ, common sense, patience, faithfulness, love and probly fate will carry couples into that 50th anniversary of matrimony and stuff.
Can therapy or hobby instill those? I dunno. Discipline, conscience and prudence, gotta have those.
ATTN: Chris
– Of course they're not perfect examples. But they're like us. So what better examples to use than REALISTIC ones that mimic (and amplify) our flaws, too?
We all know too many people who've gotten divorced lah. Sigh. And always, there's suffering. But... after a conversation I recently had with a friend, I've also come to realise that there's so much suffering to be had when there's NO divorce, too. Haih. So how?
"I guess, a little bit of high EQ, common sense, patience, faithfulness, love and probly fate will carry couples into that 50th anniversary of matrimony and stuff.
Totally. The EQ thingy, patience, faithfulness and love are SOOOO important. So important.
Too bad it's so rare these days. =(
I wouldnt recommend having superficial skanks amplifying 'flaws' and infect ppl(errr you) with fear & phobia, love.
Probly practice makes perfect somewhere along the line.
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