Idealistic Thoughts

Was blog-hopping when I stumbled upon a post YapThomas recently put up. *click* You see, H. Jackson Brown, Jr. (the man best-known for his book entitled "Life's Little Instruction Book" – a New York Times bestseller) had a list of suggestions for success. And the one on top of the list was this:

"Marry the right person. This one decision
will determine 90% of your happiness or misery."

– H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

And he's right.

It's time I did some soul-searching. Time I did some thinking about what I want and what I'm looking for. About WHO I'm looking for... as I wait patiently and hope that he's looking for me, too. Here goes.

My ideal man...

Loves me. Loves my God. Loves my family. Likes my friends. Has good, healthy friendships. Enjoys sharing his friends with me. Includes me into his world and is open to being incorporated into mine. Is a family man. Adores kids and is good with them. Has a certain boyish charm about him. Is older than I am. Is mature. Is a man of character – the good kind, that is. Has a stable career and is doing well in it. Earns more than I do. Is a good steward. Is provision oriented. Is generous but not stupidly so. Is financially savvy. Is business-minded. Is a planner – cos I'm not much of a long-term-plan kind of person and I should have a little bit of that in my life. Is good with numbers, dates and times. Has foresight. Is respectable. Respects me. Believes in me. Supports me in my efforts at work and everything else outside of it. Is responsible. Is adaptable. Has a good memory – cos I don't quite remember much of anything. Accepts me for all that I am – that includes my many flaws and shortcomings. Understands me. Understands women and their needs. Is sensitive towards the needs of those around him. Prioritises the importance of things in life the same way I do. Is biblically sound and knows the Bible better than, or at least as well as I do. Is confident. Has good self-esteem. Has a good mix of IQ and EQ. Is secure in himself and his abilities. Is expressive. Is a good listener. Is up for G-rated public displays of affection. Communicates well – with me and with every other person in spite of their social status, race, income bracket or relationship to us. Has a good command of the English Language. Is well-educated. Is wise. Is street-smart. Is all man. Is helpful. Is capable of playing the handyman at home. Is musically inclined. Has good taste in music. Plays a musical instrument – primary school recorders don't count. Doesn't sound like a toad – not tone deaf. Understands ornithophobia. Is protective but not possessive. Dresses well. Is tall. Is lean. Has good skin – the occasional pimple is fine. Doesn't smoke. Doesn't drink – the occasional beer with the guys or a glass of wine while fine dining is perfectly okay. Doesn't inject profanity into his every sentence. Is not a gambler. Dances but isn't a fan of the clubbing scene. Is homely and house-broken – his masculinity isn't undermined when he's to do the dishes. Is able to cook – instant noodles and mushroom soup count. Tells good stories. Is honest. Is humble. Is loyal. Is faithful. Is not easily jealous. Is emotionally healthy. Is healthy. Is good with his body, hands and feet. Plays a sport he loves. Enjoys traveling and seeing the rest of the world. Is fun to be with. Has a wicked sense of humour. Is able to laugh at himself. Is kind. Is patient. Is just my kind of perfect.

I may have missed some things out but...
I'm sure my ideal man will eventually fill in
the gaps I've left while writing this. =)