Wednesday, November 23, 2016

Easy Or Not Easy? That Is The Question.

It's not easy being married. Heck, being married is like running a three-legged race through life with one person perpetually by your side! Seeing the same person – the same face – every single day. Dealing with the same issues – the same problems – day in and day out. After awhile, things creep in. It starts with the little things. It always does. Air-con temp. Chicken or fish. Who turns off the lights. Trivial stuff of little to no importance, really. But then, over time, the issues grow. They get bigger – more intense – usually when the severity and importance of the issue intensifies, too.


The Husband and I are not exempt
from this phenomenon that strikes couples
young and old, everywhere around the world.


We have our disagreements here and there every now and again. Over his idea of what I do versus mine – I consider myself a WFHM but I think he considers me a SAHM. Over the way we raise our kids – bedtime, nutrition, exercise, schooling, argh! Even the bible and theology – even though we're both Christians who grew up in the same church! Imagine that! And yes, after all this time, we still cannot agree when it comes to whether the room is too hot or too cold. LOL.


It's been over 5 years, 4 months and 2 weeks.
Almost 15 years from when we first started dating.
Yes, we've come a pretty long way!


But if you think it's all chores and arguments and blah-ness throughout all those years, you're wrong. The Husband can work me up like no one can but he can also make me feel so much better than anyone can. I started off having a really bad day but here are 6 ways The Husband turned it right around and, in turn, gained a couple of brownie points for himself (plus this blog post). Haha.


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1. He asked me, "What can I do to help?"

Today was one of those days when I had sooo many things to do that I just felt so overwhelmed by everything. Every single thing was going wrong with the house. The blocked sink x 5, the spraying tap, the spoilt heater, the leaking hose – OMG, OMG, OMG! And then there was work. So many things to do! Which is usually a good thing that I wouldn't complain about but everything just needed my immediate attention and I just couldn't get through to the operator today and didn't have time to wait. And then there was the kids. Mommy this! And Mommy that! And Mommy, Didi did this! And boo hoo hoo, let's all cry together and drive Mommy crazy! I also had a bunch of stuff to prepare for JZ's upcoming birthday this Saturday and I just didn't have the time to sit down and work on anything properly. Sigh. O-v-e-r-w-h-e-l-m-e-d MAXIMUM. T_T


2. He took charge and got in touch with a difficult vendor for me. 

Birthday party problems. Ugh. Resign already still must work right? Immediately cuci tangan meh?? Anyway, this is the first year I had to deal with vendors cos I usually DIY and throw home parties. And OMG, I can only conclude that I HATE DEALING WITH PEOPLE. 


3. He appreciated my effort.



This was in reference to the plumber who came to fix everything that was wrong in the house.


3. He bought me Thai Iced Tea from Boat Noodles. 

I was craving for it and he got me just what I wanted. Even helped me look for a bathroom to pee before we bought me my drink. LOL #uselessatdirections After that he bought me a burger, too. And some curly fries. Who says food only works with men? Haha. 


4. He drove me home.

I was so tired that I just felt like I couldn't last the drive home safely so he upped and drove me and the boys straight home. No second thoughts. 


5. He offered to give me a massage. "No charge," he said. 

I was struggling with a headache and some head heaviness after all that running around, coupled with a brand new flu bug, and he YLEO-ed my headache away with Stress Away and M-Grain. Not bad la his kanghu. After that I really felt much, much better. Best part was that he didn't even rush through it. Just took his time and did his thang. Haha. Gotta take advantage of this skill he's got and get him to massage me more next time! =p


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So, yes. It may not be easy being married to the same man for 5 years. But The Husband sure makes it feel so easy for me on days such as these. =)

Friday, October 21, 2016

Kiasu?

We've been saying nightly prayers with the boys since they were born. Last night was no different. But it was one of those nights where I couldn't help but giggle through the prayer. Here's why...


The Husband: Dear Jesus, we pray that... *bla bla bla* And we pray that... *bla bla bla* And we also pray that JJ will wean soon...

JZ: HUH?? WIN WHAT???

The Husband: Never win anything lah. Wean means no more nen nen. SHHH... Papa praying! 


LOL!! So kiasu, man, this one!! 

Tuesday, October 11, 2016

"Mozzie Off' Takes Flight!



OMG, I did it. I finally did it! =D


Ladies and gentlemen, my personal blend of mosquito repellents, made only with 100% pure Young Living Essential Oils is now on sale on Facebook! This is the full excerpt of the post I wrote:


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Mozzie Off Mosquito Repellent, made with Young Living Essential Oils
RM50
Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
Hi Mommies!

I started using this blend of Young Living Essential Oils for mosquito repellents to use on my kids about a year ago. I trust the #YLEO promise of purity and decided to use only the best and most natural for my kids, especially since this is something we apply directly on their skin, numerous times a week, and sometimes, even numerous times a day!  
So far, it's worked like a charm on my family and we can really see the difference whenever we use it and when we don't. The plus point? It smells amaaaazingggg and my son never fails to remind me to give him a spritz before school even if I forget! Even my friends' kids prefer the smell of this blend to other family favourites like Badger Balm and Buds Baby!  
Recently, with the rise of Zika, a friend of mine who saw my mosquito repellent recipe wanted the convenience of a pre-mix so I decided to start selling these Mozzie Repellants about a month back, but only as a courtesy to friends I personally knew. Somehow, business grew through word of mouth and I started wondering if I could start selling this mosquito repellent on a larger scale. =p  
Anyway, to cut the long story short... with the support and encouragement of my husband, family and friends, I've decided to just go for it! My personal blend of #YoungLiving #essentialoil mosquito repellent, called "MOZZIE OFF", is now on sale! More details below!  
WHAT IS THIS? A homemade, spray-on mosquito repellent using only 100% pure Young Living Essential Oils. 
WHAT YOUNG LIVING ESSENTIAL OILS DOES IT CONTAIN?
Citronella, Lemongrass, Purification (and exclusive YL blend), Lavender and Peppermint.  
HOW MUCH DOES IT COST?
RM50 for 50ml in an amber spray bottle.  
HOW QUICKLY CAN I GET IT?
I can Poslaju (add RM7 for WM / RM10 for EM) within 24 hours, Mondays to Thursdays after payment is received.  
HOW DO I GET ME SOME OF THIS AMAZING MOSQUITO REPELLENT??
Reply to this post and I'll PM you! =)
Thank you in advance for your support!




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Now, to sit back and wait to see
if business jalan ke tak jalan.
And wait. And wait. And wait...

*twiddles thumbs impatiently*

Wednesday, August 31, 2016

What's That Sound??

While feeding the kids their breakfast,
we hear helicopters and jets zooming by loudly.


Pam Song: JZ, do you know what's that sound? 

JZ: *eyes wide open* No.

Pam Song: It's our Independence Day today, JZ. There's a big airshow going on in town. That's why all the planes are zooming so loudly above us. 

JZ: Ohhh... Can we go and see, Mommy? Can we? Can we? 

*my helper stifles a giggle*

Pam Song: *turns to helper* What? Why you laugh?

Jas: I thought war, ma'am!!


Hahaha. Good one.


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Happy Merdeka, Malaysia.

May our love-hate relationship
lean further toward the former
much sooner rather than later.

XOXO,
Pam Song

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

Bedtime Whispers

JZ: Goodnight, Mommy...

Pam Song: Goodnight.

JZ: I love you, Mommy...

Pam Song: I love you.

JZ: Happy Sleep Day, Mommy...

Pam Song: Hahaha. Happy Sleep Day. Now, sleep ok? 

JZ: Okay...  *proceeds to rub his face on my upper arm and then promptly falls asleep*


I love bedtimes such as these, and I love how loving JZ always is. I pray Life never takes this beautiful part of his personality away from him, and I hope that he himself never grows out of it. "What the world needs now, is love sweet love."

Saturday, July 09, 2016

And Now We're 5



Not literally though. Relax. Not ready for THAT ship to sail yet. Am still paying instalment on the last two "ships" we "bought". LOL. #funnybutnotfunny


I actually spent the day doing exactly what I would have done on any other regular Saturday – doing nothing worth remembering in the greater scheme of things, and yet physically, mentally and emotionally feeling like I've just spent the day doing more than I can remember.


Having two kids and a looong holiday is no joke, man. I'm just knackered day in and day out. Doesn't help that the kids picked up some kind of virus a week back so it's been nightly fevers + running noses + thickening mucous + phlegmy coughs + midnight tantrums + fussy fellas... OMG I CANNOT TAKE IT!!! -__-'''''


So anyhew... just 5 years down the road
and The Husband and I already be like:

"Can postpone celebration ah?"

Seriously. Cos... Romance?
What's that after kids, right? Haha.


Truth be told, we're all down with the kids' mutated virus that just refuses to die. That and, more relevantly, babysitters are nowhere to be found within 350km radius of us and our two kiddos so... bye-bye anniversary celebrations. See you in October. Maybe. (Yeah, no kidding when I say it's a looong postponement. -_-')


Anyhoo, I thought we could make this year a little more special since it's our 5th (read: wooden) anniversary and all but I guess... it wasn't gonna be a magical-wood-found-deep-within-the-Enchanted-Forest kind of celebration for us. More like dead-wood-found-floating-on-the-Dead-Sea, as it turns out. LOL.


I'll update come October. IF October happens, that is. (I deeply suspect it's never gonna. T_T) In the mean time, The Husband says this *points below* is his anniversary gift to me this year.




Guess it's better than unwrapping
a vacuum cleaner anniversary gift, right? =p

Yep, Imma count my blessings.


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Happy 5th Anniversary, Honey.


Pandan Sponge Cake from House, BSC.


I'm thankful it's you I share
moist Pandan Sponge Cakes with.
Today, tomorrow and always.

XOXO,
Pam Song

Wednesday, June 15, 2016

Things I Would Have Done Differently During My Wedding

Decided to kaypo around online for a bit over lunch today and whoaaaa... I'm beyond surprised that this (dead) blog still has visitors! LOL! So honoured la, really. Talk about it also can cry a bit. =p Makes me wanna revive it a little. If only for today. Haha.


Let's see.

What's the most happening thing
that just happened recently...


Well, we just attended Sara & Garrett's wedding at Saujana two weekends ago and it totally made me reflect on our wedding back in 2011. Mainly cos our kids – JZ (3y6m) and JJ (1y8m) – were their ring-bearer and paige boy so I suddenly had a rush of involvement in a wedding once again. Haha. Like I told the Lau Sisters... I AM MOTHER OF THE RING-BEARER, YO!! Important posisi giler. LOL! #tumpangglamour


The dashing paige boy.

The handsome ring-bearer.

Me and my boys after they carried out their tasks perfectly.



Anyhoo, I wonder if any of you married folk have ever looked back upon your wedding day and wished that some things were different. Cos I hate to admit it but sometimes... I do. Haha. #honest #notiputipu Here are some things I only learned AFTER I had my wedding. And unfortunately, I won't be able to relive the day so... may you brides- and grooms-to-be take back some lessons I learned too late. Cheers!


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Things I Would Have Done Differently
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FLOWERS & THEME: I wouldn't have chosen "unique colours" for my wedding theme – specifically when it came to the floral arrangements. I would have gone with what was safely available in Malaysia. Boring is better than wrong. T_T In hindsight, I think I should have gone with white and green (easy and simple), instead of royal purple and pale green (too complicated and unachievable in Malaysia due to our lack of flower varieties).


ACCESSORIES: I wouldn't have accessorised my neckline during my solemnisation. Bridal house accessories are soooo overdone and OTT. What the heck was I thinking wearing that ugly-ass thing that's now splashed across all my solemnisation pictures?? -_-''' Should have just kept to what I owned, like I did during my behind-the-scenes photography with The Husband a couple of hours before the wedding solemnisation.


THE DRESS: Having said that, I probably would have gone with a non-tube wedding gown instead of a tube. Just for ease of movement and less under garment stress. LOL. May have even taken the plunge and had it MTM. Or maybe not. I didn't mind the cost; but I didn't have the guts back then. Maybe I still don't. HARHAR. #chickenshit #trustissues


OTHER EVENING GOWNS: I wouldn't have worn one of the dresses I did – an autumn-looking one. (Dunno how else to describe it. Haha.) I liked it at the bridal house and ordered my own but when mine arrived, it looked soooo different from the original I tried on. -_- I should have rejected it on the spot but I didn't – #stupid #naive #pushover – and ended up wearing it anyway. Should have just written it off, replaced it with one of the dresses I wore during my parents' dinner and called it a day. I really liked those two anyway – a white cheongsam by D&L and a silver gown – so I wouldn't have minded more pics of me in those. Haih. REGRET! >(


PHOTOGRAPHY: I would have been more assertive with my wedding photographer and given more specifics regarding my expectations for our family group photos. Or maybe I should have gone with another photographer altogether. Hmmm. I mean, I loved my pre-wedding shots. They were natural and un-staged – just the way we like 'em. That's what my hired photographer was good at anyway. But everything else on the actual day came out a little sub-par. Family group photos were badly arranged (families were split apart and the group was grossly lopsided), the environment wasn't properly staged (people walking in the background, messy flower pots around, etc) – at the end of the day, what we got just wasn't something we would print out and frame.


THE WEDDING DINNER: Food was great, the music was great, everything was great. The only thing I regretted was expecting that the bride and groom were to do everything together as a show of solidarity during the wedding. Remember: Expectation always leads to DISAPPOINTMENT. I should have just walked around on my own and caught up with my friends like I really wanted to instead of fuming on the inside while sitting around waiting for The Husband to go along with me. I hardly managed to say two words to my friends who came all the way for our wedding and ended up not having any pictures with most of them. Haih! So stupid.


THE HOTEL ROOM: Maybe we should have been clearer with our bridal team about our intentions to spend the wedding night at the hotel. Because we did up our bridal room in our own space back at home, some members of our bridal team assumed that we wouldn't be utilising our bridal suite that night so... THEY TRASHED IT. @_@ Thank goodness our hotel gave us 2 nights in total so we got to spend one night in our wedding hotel the day after anyway. But still wasted one night and damn tired lah. Cos after the wedding etc we had to pack up all our stuff and head home. Then the next morning after we woke up, we had to pack again and drive back to the hotel before we could chill out.


These things aside, I was pretty happy
with how the rest of the wedding party went.

Till next time... bye-bye. :-*

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Psst

After thinking about it for awhile
and ding-dong-ing back and forth,
I've decided to start a Dayre account.




JENG! Surpriseeeee!!! =D


Don't worry la, I'll still be here. Blogging away, telling my stories, and sharing my tales. This isn't the end of Tinki Talks, the blog. BUT... I'll also be at Dayre. See, I never really took to Twitter, I don't like Instagram, and to me, Facebook is made for stalking; not talking. Problem is... I feel like my days keep slipping by without a memory considering how blogging consistently feels so impossible to juggle at the moment. :-/ That's why Dayre feels like the perfect middle ground for me right now. Microblogging via my iPad Mini or my iPhone – it doesn't take a lot of effort and I can totally do it on the go. Win!


So, feel free to join me
on Dayre at dayre.me/tinkitalks
to keep up with me and my daily life! =)

I promise I update Dayre waaaaay more often. =p